There is a surprisingly large amount of research out there that can help the curious determine just how normal or kinky they might be. Â Here is what normal looks like according to The Stir:
You started having sex as a teenager: the average age for first sexual experiences is 17 years old for women and by age 20 for men, 75% of Americans have had unmarried sex.
You’re still having sex now: Over 90% of married women ages 30-39 years old have had sex in the past year. In fact, it isn’t until women are in their 70s that the majority (53%) of married women say they didn’t have sex in the last year. Hats off to the more than 40% of 70+ women still getting busy!
You didn’t wait for a ring on your finger to get frisky: 95% of Americans have had sex before marriage
You’re comfortable using a sex toy: Over 52% of women have used (and enjoyed!) a vibrator, either alone or with a partner.
You don’t always have a big finish: Only 29% of women (and 75% of men, lucky dogs) report that they always have an orgasm with their partner. Interestingly, your partner might not realize this as 85% of men say their partner had an orgasm at the most recent sexual event but only 64% women said that they did.
You’ve had more than one partner: According to the book Sex in America: A Definitive Survey, only 20% of men and 31% of women report only having one sexual partner. On the flip side, only 30% of women and 56% of men say they’ve had more than five partners.
You’ve gotten pregnant when you didn’t mean to: By the age of 45, more than half of women have had an unplanned pregnancy. One in three of those women will chose to have an abortion.
You’re not into S&M: “50 Shades†might be popular, but that doesn’t mean you’re looking for a Mr. Grey of your very own. Only 5-10% of Americans regularly engage in S&M.
You don’t think about sex everyday: While 54% of men report thinking about sex on a daily basis, only 19% of women report the same. Why do I suspect most of us are just too darn tired to being day dreaming about sexy times?
You’re faithful: According to the Kinsey Institute, 10-15% of women and 20-25% of men will cheat at least once during a marriage. Infidelity is commonly cited as the number one reason for divorce.
Oral sex is on the menu: The majority of women ages 20-49 were both on the giving and receiving end in the last year. Yay for equality!
You’ve looked at porn but aren’t buying it: Most women have seen porn but only 49% have downloaded sexual material and only 11% have paid for an X-rated movie in the past year.
So my question is… how ‘normal’ is your sex life?